Thirukkural Chapter 80 - Investigation in forming Friendships


Couplet 791 
To make an untried man your friend is ruin sure;
For friendship formed unbroken must endure
Explanation
As those who are of a friendly nature will not forsake (a friend) after once loving (him), there is no evil so great as contracting a friendship without due inquiry

Couplet 792 
Alliance with the man you have not proved and proved again,
In length of days will give you mortal pain
Explanation
The friendship contracted by him who has not made repeated inquiry will in the end grieve (him) to death

Couplet 793 
Temper, descent, defects, associations free
From blame: know these, then let the man be friend to thee
Explanation
Make friendship (with one) after ascertaining (his) character, birth, defects and the whole of one's relations

Couplet 794 
Who, born of noble race, from guilt would shrink with shame,
Pay any price so you as friend that man may claim
Explanation
The friendship of one who belongs to a (good) family and is afraid of (being charged with) guilt, is worth even purchasing

Couplet 795 
Make them your chosen friend whose words repentance move,
With power prescription's path to show, while evil they reprove
Explanation
You should examine and secure the friendship of those who can speak so as to make you weep over a crime (before its commission) or rebuke you severely (after you have done it) and are able to teach

Couplet 796 
Ruin itself one blessing lends:
'Tis staff that measures out one's friends
Explanation
Even in ruin there is some good; (for) it is a rod by which one may measure fully (the affection of one's) relations

Couplet 797 
'Tis gain to any man, the sages say,
Friendship of fools to put away
Explanation
It is indead a gain for one to renounce the friendship of fools

Couplet 798 
Think not the thoughts that dwarf the soul; nor take
For friends the men who friends in time of grief forsake
Explanation
Do not think of things that discourage your mind, nor contract friendship with those who would forsake you in adversity

Couplet 799 
Of friends deserting us on ruin's brink,
'Tis torture e'en in life's last hour to think
Explanation
The very thought of the friendship of those who have deserted one at the approach of adversity will burn one's mind at the time of death

Couplet 800 
Cling to the friendship of the spotless one's; whate'er you pay
Renounce alliance with the men of evil way
Explanation
Continue to enjoy the friendship of the pure; (but) renounce even with a gift, the friendship of those who do not agree (with the world)